Monday, March 21, 2016
The Path to Accomplishment is Littered With Failure
I'm going to be honest, I was extremely nervous about it. The girls dance teacher is not particularly warm and fuzzy. She is nice enough but she is extremely exacting and has no qualms about calling kids out by name when they need extra work on a step or position. I would say she is strict and demanding. The first few weeks I thought Gigi was going to quit. There were a couple times in class when she just shut down on her teacher and I thought, well here we go again, but her teacher did not give up. More than once she took my daughter out into the hall and talked to her about how hard work and mistakes are all part of learning. She called me and asked me and J to encourage her on the home front and talk to her about how while perfection might be the ultimate goal no one is perfect on the first try, fifth try, or twenty try and that failure is just part of the process. I think the three of us hit on this for two months and miracle of miracles a switch flipped for her. Her teacher is always telling me now that she is one of the hardest workers, one of the first girls willing to try something new, and very encouraging of her other classmates. I know she is still very concerned with how she looks and performs. I can see it in her face during performance. She is so serious, you can just see her thinking everything over. Gigi is the opposite of Peach who spends her time in the mirror sneaking funny faces at herself, but even though she is serious, Gigi is all about trying now and I love it. The greatest thing is that it has actually had positive outcomes at school. Her teacher tells me that she doesn't allow herself to shut down when she gets stuck anymore and that she is always willing to try. There are so many things I get wrong in parenting my children and I know that when it is all said and done I will have lots of regrets but this was a parenting win for me and I'm so glad to see her learning to learn from failure. It is such an important skill to reach our full potential. The bonus on this is that I also love getting to watch her dance, so it was a double win for mom!